We all can feel lost and distracted in life. Our focus can become distorted and our flow can be disrupted by trivial mind chatter and meaningless novelty. This state of confusion and interruption is caused by a lack of grounding. If we take the time to ground ourselves and "calibrate" our moods and thoughts, we can reclaim the clarity and inner peace essential to a happy existence.
Are You Approaching Life in An Imbalanced Way?
Sometimes our goals and ideals cause us to behave in ways that actually lead us to deviate from those very ideals. We may value success, but we go about trying to pursue that success in a way that causes us to suffer and utterly miss the fruits of our labor. We may value some sort of social ideal, such as the ideal of a perfect lady, but we might lose ourselves and deny ourselves of our true essence while trying to fit the ideal.
So as not to lose ourselves in the pursuit of our goals and ideals, we must ground ourselves. When we ground ourselves, each step becomes an enjoyable and fulfilling step on the journey- not just another trait or quality or task we have to cross off our to-do list. So here are 3 ways to get out of your own way.
1. One way to ground ourselves is through a calibration of extremes. It sounds fancy, but it is really simple and pretty fun. When we chronically err towards one side of the spectrum, we lose balance. The middle path has balance. An easy way to find that middle ground is the swing to the extremes of both ends of the spectrum, experiencing it in a way that leads us to let go of our former imbalanced position on that spectrum and let ourselves settle for the middle ground. I DO NOT MEAN that you need to actually take actions representative of both extremes. For example, if one is too held up trying to be on the good, right side of the spectrum, I do not mean that one should behave very badly to explore the opposite side. When I speak of exploring the extremes, I mean so in a way that has no real consequence on the outer world/other people. This is strictly a personal thought experience/game. You are an actor, and to warm up your expressive capabilities and really function from that sense of knowing and control, you must feel out the extremes of the spectrum.
If you have been too hung up on the ideals of hard work and success and find that you have wound yourself too tightly, try spending a day watching total slacker films. Stay in your pajamas. Don't bathe for a day or two.
If you have been too hung up on the ideals of, say, a perfect lady and have wound yourself too tightly, try watching interviews of relaxed manly actors you would want to actually hang out with. Let yourself be unladylike in your own presence.
This exercise really helps you loosen that tight grip on ideals and find balance. You center yourself naturally.
2. Another way to find balance is to immerse yourself in peace and balance. Hang out with balanced, happy people who go about their lives in a streamlined but relaxed manner. Send yourself to the spa. Listen and watch the interviews of relaxed people. Seek our their quotes and extract that vibe. Steal that vibe; adopt it. It is often easy to adopt a vibe that you have an example of.
3. And to get to the nitty gritty- journal about your imbalances. Ask yourself where these imbalances come from and why they have become so rooted into your way of life. Ask yourself why your grip on certain ideals are too tight. The answer will 99.9% of the time be a fear based reason. Maybe you are scared of not being good enough, of acting in a way which you consider inferior, etc. Be patient with yourself as you learn more about yourself and be gentle.
I hope these 3 simple exercise help you to find balance. They really work if you give yourself the chance to explore and play with the concepts and give it an honest go. Remember, life exists on both ends of the spectrum, but life really thrives in the middle path of balance and moderation. So I wish you a happy, peaceful, and sustainable way.
All the love,