Be Ridiculously Good at Life

The new year is coming around and I would like to remind all of my readers that I do offer consultation services based on a donations basis. Click on the Personal Consultation tab on my blog to find out more about this service I am offering. If you have any issue(s) that you feel you might be able to handle with the right support, insight, and perspective , I am confident that I can provide. I am highly sensitive and observant to any details and I assure you that your privacy is fully protected. I can offer one on one coaching if that is what you need, including regularly scheduled calls/Skype sessions if that is the service that is right for you. I emphasize the importance of finding an approach that is right for every client, and I am highly flexible to all your needs. My top priority is making sure you work through any issues with more than enough guidance and support to help you thrive. I look forward to working with all of you. Warmly with love, Wynona beingridiculouslygoodat

We are all connected but we also exist individually. We have individual lives and with that comes the need for individual boundaries. Personal boundaries are important for our personal growth. With personal boundaries, we can concentrate our efforts on a specific desire or state. It is the personal boundary that helps us focus and keeps our energy and intentions from scattering. Privacy is an aspect of personal boundaries. No one has a right to demand that we admit our thoughts and feelings. When we want to keep information private for a reason, we usually do not feel the desire to express and share that information. This intention is not based on greed or hoarding, and it is not based on fear. What I am referring to is a genuine desire to keep information to yourself because it helps you grow and you are genuinely happy with that decision. How can this be so? Maybe someone has a disease or internal conflict. They might want to keep that disease or conflict private so that they can wor

Hey everyone! I just wanted you to all know that I just published en eBook-   "Before You Cheat: A Guide to Reclaiming Your Life from Infatuation, Obsession, and Infidelity." It is available for download on Amazon:  http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00HDOF704 . Thank you so much for your support.

Sometimes we can feel completely alone in the most crowded of places. Our loneliness and lack of connection is heightened because of everyone we find ourselves around, it seems that none of them really understand us or get us or accept us or love us for who we are. This is a real problem that causes many people lots of unhappiness, resentment, disappointment, and other negative emotions. If one finds themselves with an excess of this negative emotion, one can become overwhelmed and not know how to deal with it. This leads to us ignoring the negative emotion and distracting ourselves. The more we distract ourselves, the deeper we fall into the hole of loneliness. We drift further and further away from others and we become more and more unhappy. There is a point where this unhappiness and loneliness becomes completely debilitating and we lose the desire to live. No matter how much you practice detachment, and no matter how much happiness you find in yourself, life is always better when w

Hello everyone, I hope all is well. I have decided to try out other forms of media to really fulfill the purpose of this blog. I hope it serves you and helps you in any way. Here is a video I recorded when I felt inspired to share this message on the topic of over-identifying with our thoughts and not giving them the power to run our lives. And here is a link to a  Quick Anger Resolving Meditation  I have recorded for you. Feel free to download it. I hope this helps at least one person out. An extended version is being currently uploaded. All the love, Wynona

Here are a few tips to make your holiday shopping experience a little less hectic and a lot more enjoyable! Hydrate and Feed Yourself! Department stores have terrible air circulation that rob your body of water. The changes in temperature, the wind, and all of that walking also lower your hydration. If you add in the caffeinated drinks and salty snacks commonly consumed during these mall outings, your body will be begging for water and better nutrition. Thirsty and hungry people are cranky people, so make sure you drinks lots of water- bring a reusable bottle and refill it at a water fountain or (graciously) ask an employee at a snack booth to fill it up for you. Bring small snacks to eat in between store raids, but eat them outside  of the store, and most definitely not in a long line. If you absolutely must eat or drink while in line, make sure it isn't loud and that it doesn't have much of a scent to it. Don't slurp at the bottom of your iced drink or litter either, plea

Hey everyone! I hope all is well and that you are all at peace and in the moment, enjoying life through your mind, body, heart, and spirit :) I just felt really inspired to share some thoughts about focusing on what you want in life. Sometimes we ask ourselves, hey, what do I actually want in life? And sometimes, we honestly don't know. I think a lot of the times we don't know is because we forget about what we love and what makes life fun, because I truly do believe that life is meant to be fun and joyous and utterly fulfilling. I encourage you to write a list of what you want in life- what enthralls you, what comforts you, what thrills you. You don't have to know why or how these things might happen, but you do have to put yourself in a good place and really listen to your heart. Ask yourself what you want in life when you're having fun and in good spirits, with good company or in peaceful solitude. Allow your imagination to run without rules and don't let doubt o

We all can feel lost and distracted in life. Our focus can become distorted and our flow can be disrupted by trivial mind chatter and meaningless novelty. This state of confusion and interruption is caused by a lack of grounding. If we take the time to ground ourselves and "calibrate" our moods and thoughts, we can reclaim the clarity and inner peace essential to a happy existence. Are You Approaching Life in An Imbalanced Way? Sometimes our goals and ideals cause us to behave in ways that actually lead us to deviate from those very ideals. We may value success, but we go about trying to pursue that success in a way that causes us to suffer and utterly miss the fruits of our labor. We may value some sort of social ideal, such as the ideal of a perfect lady, but we might lose ourselves and deny ourselves of our true essence while trying to fit the ideal. So as not to lose ourselves in the pursuit of our goals and ideals, we must ground ourselves. When we ground ourselves, each

Sometimes we develop very deep feelings for people we have already established wonderful friendships with. This is natural- you get to know somebody whose company you really enjoy and someday you realize that you want to be more than friends. Maybe you've always wanted to be more than friends. Maybe you can't stop seeing them as someone you want to spend a great deal of your time, or maybe even your life, with. Maybe you find yourself constantly thinking about them, wishing they were with you. Maybe you spend a great deal of your time thinking of ways to make them happy, or maybe even thinking of ways to confess your feelings. But maybe you don't want to ruin a great friendship. Like all important decisions in life, you need to ask yourself a few essential questions. Are You Willing to Take the Risk? Are you willing to take the risk of telling your friend about your true feelings knowing that they might reject you or that your friendship might end? Sometimes when one friend

Breakups can be really tough. When you break up with someone you were really emotionally, mentally, physically, and maybe even spiritually attached to, it can feel like half of you is missing. You can feel lost and confused and drained. You can feel anxious and tired and you can feel extremely hurt. Dealing with the pain of a breakup is a delicate task. Breakups put you into a pretty fragile position- you may feel overly sensitive or you might try to hide your sensitivity by doing the total opposite and pretending that you don't care and overcompensating by "living it up." This fragile state means that you really need to care of yourself and be gentle and easy with yourself. You also need to exercise clarity and focus as to getting back on your feet and walking the path of happiness once again. Walking this path means that you must partake in a great deal of inner confrontation, healing, and release. I hope this article helps you with that. Asking Yourself Why It Happened

Sometimes we just don't see the point in doing anything, anymore. We assess our lives in a way that capitalizes the temporal, impermanent, and consumerist nature of our lives. We focus on our failures or lack of success or lack of satisfaction and fulfillment. This can lead us to feel lonely, hopeless, or especially fed up with how our lives have turned out. Feeling this way is perfectly okay; it is a natural mindset and mood that visits us from time to time, some more than others. These feelings can serve a purpose- they can help us align with a reality and way of life more conducive to total acceptance and inner peace. These feelings can also help us transcend former realities where we were existing in acceptance and peace but have outlived our stay. In order to allow these emotions to help us grow more into life, we need to learn how to interact with them. Remember Even These Feelings Are Impermanent Throughout of day to day lives, we often feeling a sort of "medium" l

Emotions and changes in emotions, as well as changes in our mental, physical, and spiritual states, are all very important and crucial to our human experience. We need to experience that change to grow and explore and expand, but if we only live in a state of volatile change, we will never truly grow and expand because we have weak roots. A tree without strong roots just falls over and is knocked out of the ground- it is uprooted. Without its roots securely planted in the ground, the tree loses its source of stability and nourishment- therefore it ceases to grow and dies. But a strong tree with deep roots can withstand the changes in weather and seasons and continue to stand tall and grow and provide its uses and beauty to the world. I believe that a state of calm and peace is linked to a stable grounding. One with deep roots can withstand many changes in condition- but one with deep roots is also still enough to feel the tiniest changes and derive whatever needs to be derived from tho

Procrastination is inevitable- it is totally normal for people to not want to start a project immediately. Sometimes we put things off until the last minute and hopefully, it is forgivable and not too detrimental to our jobs/goals when we do procrastinate. Still, some people are chronic procrastinators who always put things off until the very last minute. If you are a chronic procrastinator or would like to avoid the onset of chronic procrastination, this article is for you. Why Do We Procrastinate? There are many reasons to procrastinate and listing those reasons would be a valid excuse to procrastinate for some people. Yet the two most common and fundamental reasons I find are that people either don't want to do something or are afraid/unsure of how to approach it.  You Honestly Don't Want to Do It Sometimes we really don't want to do something. For example, some people really hate doing chores because they find them so mundane, so they will put off doing chores until the

Sometimes we meet certain people who cause us to fall into infatuation or even obsession over them. They possess certain special qualities and make us feel certain special ways that are extremely fascinating and enjoyable to us. Some of us are more prone to this kind of behavior- the "hopeless romantics" and the ones who "fall in love" at first sight are very well experienced with this sort of pattern. This infatuation is natural but sometimes it gets to a point where it is crippling. We can no longer focus on our daily life and our plans and days revolve around that person- whether directly or indirectly. We dream and daydream about them, they are our first thoughts in the morning and the last thoughts before we fall asleep. This endless thinking soon turns into aggravation and disappointment- we over-analyze everything they do and show up at places we expect them to be, then feel utterly idiotic and creepy for making such an effort to bump into them. The cute bubb

Insecurity is a mindset that plagues all of us. It can be extremely limiting and can cause us to do the strangest, most outlandish things to gain validation and assurance. Insecurity is a weakness that we must accept, observe, and heal in order to free ourselves from the limits we've imposed upon our lives based on beliefs of inadequacy and lack of confidence. What is Insecurity? Insecurity is the feeling inadequacy. Most of the time, these feelings of inadequacy are caused by the act of comparison. We compare ourselves- our bodies, abilities, looks, emotions, etc. to others. We make life a competition or a rating scheme. We assign value to our aspects and abilities on a relative scale and then we make it personal. We become those assigned values. We reduce others to those assigned values. Instead of recognizing ourselves and others are growing beings, we reduce them to a stagnant mass of different levels of quality/quantity/ability/etc. Then we take that perspective and try to get

Some of you have this idea that your soul mate will save you from your own unhappiness. Some of you have this idea that you can magically manifest your ideal relationship through the use of vision boards, positive affirmations, and detailed lists of traits you look for in a partner. Some of you will get exactly what you ask for- which would be affirmation and reinforcements of your beliefs. If you believe your soulmate will make you forget your own unhappiness- you will....temporarily. If you believe your ideal partner will share a blissful, wonderful, balanced, conscious relationship with you, you will....temporarily. The whole point of this article is to illustrate the flaws and incoherent ideas regarding the search for the soulmate. I am not a cynic, but I do believe that if you are fervently searching for a soulmate- you have personal aspects that need tending to first and foremost. Your Soul Mate Will Not Complete You Nobody in this world will truly complete you because you are al

Sometimes we go through phases/stages/moods of clinginess and possessiveness. Sometimes our partners go through those moods as well. It can be difficult to deal with a partner who is acting clingy and possessive. You feel suffocated. Your personal boundaries feel disregarded. You feel emotionally, mentally, and physically drained. You really do love and care for your partner, but sometimes you really can't stand anymore of their clingy behavior. It drives you crazy, it makes you mad, and it makes you not want to be around them. If you feel like your partner is being too clingy and possessive, you can communicate effectively with your partner so long as they are willing to work with you and progress with you in the relationship. Telling Them the Truth: If your partner's clingy and possessive behavior is enough to drive you to Google the issue and read this article, I'm going to assume that your partner has been acting this way for a while. Not just for a day or two, not just

People are afraid of being needy in relationships. We're afraid of admitting our true feelings and concerns to our partner because we're scared of losing them and pushing them away. We think we're better than our feelings of jealousy and unfairness and impatience. We judge ourselves, but instead of processing through our feelings, we bury them deep down inside. We don't want to come off as needy, so we don't communicate our thoughts and feelings. It Is OK To Feel Needy People forget that no relationship is perfect. A relationship is meant to help two people grow together and relate to each other. Wouldn't you be cheating one of the purposes of a relationship by not letting that growth and relation manifest? A true relationship involves communication between partners because your partner is a mirror for you and you are a mirror for your partner. By communicating what you truly feel and think, you give yourself and your partner a chance to respond and bring up bur

We all have needs. Despite our efforts to fulfill our own needs and wants by ourselves and with our own devices, we as humans long for human connection. Human connection can range from the simple to the complex- and relationships allow complex human interactions to be experienced by us. In relationships, expectations are extremely hard to avoid. Although we try to fulfill ourselves, once we engage in a relationship, we tend to set expectations and standards for our partners and ourselves to fulfill. Although some will tell you that all expectation will lead to suffering, I don't see it as that black and white. Relationships, as well as the experience of life, are dynamic- there are different levels and intensities that we can experience. In relationships, conditions are hard to to avoid.  Unconditional Love but Conditional Relationships I find it best to approach relationships with this distinction in mind- you can express unconditional love for your partner, but your relationship